A True Don Juan
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How to Become a True Don Juan
There is a serious problem with the world. Everybody over-complicates everything. Everybody spends their whole lives worrying and thinking about what they are going to do. They all plan. Or worse still for the rest, the opposite extreme. They rush into everything without any kind of intelligence.
There is a balance but only the most successful people find it.
Sosuave isn't about getting laid. Its not about learning tips and techniques. At least it shouldn't be. Sosuave should be able helping guys put their life's on the right track. It shouldn't be a list of tricks or theories, but a tried and tested number of methods that if any guy uses, will find his life changing before his very own eyes.
I'm getting really p1ssed off with most of the people on this board. Once again, extremes. They either only care about getting laid, or dont even fvcking do anything, or worse - both!
Few of them see the bigger picture, and thats hopefully what i'm going to attempt to do here.
The DJ bible is hundreds of thread's long, we dont need that. We dont even need the dj reading guide. Because success in life and success with women is something that can be rounded up in a post like this. Its no series of complex techniques or phrases, it is a mindset and a viewpoint on life.
Guys ask the same questions over and over again, probably spend hours reading the same tips over and over again. But how many actually use it? Very few. And thats not forgetting how counter productive that is. To "learn" the same information over and over again instead of using it.
So to get down to it, here's what i propose.
I know that my chances of success are limited because
- I'm not well known like "pook" or the others.
- there will always be a portion of guys who are just too lazy to do what i will suggest and who will ask questions and read, over and over and over again, ask & read, ask & read.
- if everybody did what i said, there would be no site left.
and thats not going to happen.
ONCE AND FOR ALL...
A DON JUAN is NOT a player, he's not an AFC, he's not somewhere in between or a male slut. HE'S A GOOD GUY.
A Good guy is as follows:
- Confident
- Charming
- Charismatic
- Intelligent
- Decent to people, helps people, is nice to people, yet doesnt take sh1t from anyone
- Is able to walk away
- Is able to see rejection/failure as only a temporary setback
- Is always improving himself
- Realizes women are not the be all and end all of his life, yet is not afraid to take chances on them
- Is eventually looking for a long term relationship and marraige, yet does not fall in love too easily
- Is funny
- Is a good conversationalist
- Has a good body
- Does not just go after quick lays
- Is loyal and honest
- Has integrity
- Does not insult others, lets his actions do the talking.
I dont care what anybody says, but this is the kind of guy we should all want to be, and that is what a good guy is.
You all ask, how do we get to this stage?
Its all down to baby steps, it will not happen overnight, it may take weeks, months, even years, but if you never give up and have the determination to follow it, you will improve and gradually turn into this guy.
You will write a list of everything you dont like about yourself. And you will write beside each, how you can improve it.
You will buy weight equipment or join a gym. You will begin to work out. You will look at diesel's guide to bulking up.
You will write down all you want to achieve in your life, bringing it from years down to what you want to achieve in the next few months, to what you want to achieve in the next week. And you will figure out how you can achieve each. You will set time aside for rest and relaxation. You will watch tv less, surf the internet less, waste less time and see every moment as vital for your growth. Even when your relaxing or sleeping, that is for the purpose of getting your energy back in order to start the next day.
You will look at each of the above characteristics that a good guy is and you will read the relevant posts on this site. I.E. how to be a better conversationalist, improve humour, kino, sexual technique. You will learn this and begin practicing it. You will not read all of the dj bible or ever post again, you will simply read whats neccesary.
At this time you need to tear everything apart and only do/spend time on what matters. You cannot afford to waste time on tips you already know. Its all about building knowledge and skills. You will begin to practice what youve learnt. At first on family, then friends, then female friends, then women.
As you begin to improve yourself physically and mentally, you will have more reason to be confident and so you will be. It will build up. You wont be as scared of rejection because you will actually begin to believe pook when he says your a good catch.
YOU WILL BEGIN TO ACCEPT YOURSELF.
You WILL be yourself. You will work on the aspects to your personality that you dont like and bring out the aspects you do like.
I hate when people almost tell you to put on an act or NOT BE YOURSELF.
I have never heard more bullsh1t in my life.
YES, BE YOURSELF. Just encorporate all youve learnt, improve the negative aspects to your personality and bring out your positive ones.
THERES NOTHING WORSE THAN BEING FAKE OR NOT TRUE TO YOURSELF. I'd far rather be that and only get laid once every so often than be fake and get laid every night.
BECAUSE A GOOD GUY HAS INTEGRITY.
HE IS AN ALPHA MALE.
If you are really honest with yourself, sit down and detail all you want to improve (thats in your control) and you actually start to do it, you will HAVE REASON TO BE CONFIDENT. You wont need to fake confidence anymore. You will confident for real. And it will all follow..
To sum up...
- list all you dont like
- list how you can improve
- work out/read specific articles that apply to you/improve anything else you can
- practice, continue improving
- practice, continue improving
- practice, continue improving
- and repeat!
There is nothing worse than being an old man wandering what you could have done with your life. You dont need to wander anymore. You just need to DO.
The time is now.
